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2022.01.18 16:11 throwawayfiance12345 Situationship Communication Expectations - Advice needed
So I’ve (29F) gotten myself into a bit of a situation… Met a guy(30M) at a bar while out of town a few months ago in a city neither of us live in. He got my number, and we started texting.
He was back visiting family over the holidays in a city about 40 minutes from where I live. Asked to meet up for a drink, which I agreed to, and he drove down. We had a great time talking and ended up back at my apartment where we hooked up.
He texted me the day after, and we’ve kept texting/flirting (been fairly consistent about texting at least one a week since then). One thing led to another and he asked me to visit him, even offered to help pay for my plane ticket if I didn’t want to drive as he lives several states away. I agreed because I thought it sounded fun to visit somewhere new, we had good chemistry, and I was looking forward to seeing him again. We set a date for the end of next month.
It’s been over a week since that conversation, and I haven’t heard from him since. When looking back, overall it’s been fairly balanced with who initiates texting (skewed a little more towards me), but I initiated the last two conversations.
I’m bummed and disappointed that he hasn’t reached out. Way I see it is that I don’t want to put in more effort than he is; however, whatever this situationship is, I do want more communication from him if he expects me to come visit. Is that unreasonable? And how do you express that via text without coming off as crazy?
Part of the issue is that we have not had a conversation about what this is/what our expectations are. I know, I know, that should have happened before hooking up, but one thing led to another and then there wasn’t a lot of talking after that that night. To be honest, I don’t have an answer to that question for myself, and while it’s something that needs to be addressed, I don’t want to have that conversation over text.
But back to my current issue with the communication. Previously, I was enjoying texting 1-2 times a week. It was fun flirting and getting to know him better. Now I find myself getting annoyed that he hasn’t reached out, and don’t know how to appropriately express that. I don’t want to give an ultimatum out of the blue, but I also don’t want to make that trip if I’m going to be ghosted leading up to it.
So how do I communicate my needs/expectations for this without coming off like I’m trying to define something? And is it appropriate to want/expect more communication in this situation?
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2022.01.18 16:11 UMDQuestionsBurner I am confused by some of the more recent discussion of vulnerability and how it is being framed ( on youtube, reddit, twitter - in general, not by destiny in particular ); I hope that you all will be able to help me clear up some of these confusions since this community seems good at shit like this
Context for why I may be so confused by this topic: I was born into a harsh environment, it was not unusual for the next house down to be shot up every other month, or ( a little less frequent ) for me to see a man stabbed near the bus stop on the way to school. Robbery and fraud were normal every day activities, drug running opportunities were so abundant you'd think people were trying to do a good thing by helping kids make money lmao. One parent dead, the other neglectful, so in short, I was BROOOOOOOKE as fuck, and had zero dollars to my name for years.
Anyway, these things, to me, were normal occurrences, none of which bothered me - oddly enough. Still, the environment being what it is, I had to do what was necessary to survive and get out of the shit hole, and this took the form of pursuing strength and power ( sounds like some cringe anime edgy shit, but lmao, I don't know how else to say it ).
Basically, I needed money to get the fuck out of the slums, and luckily enough, I did ( I am 20 now ), and left all that violence and shit behind. But bro, now that I am around people who weren't exposed to similar dangers, I can't seem to understand some of their perspectives. I thought I was just dumb as fuck when it came to this topic but I had seen a CMV post talking about similar shit, so I knew I wasn't the only one with these confusions .
My confusions: In many reddit threads, youtube videos, twitter, and even IRL with some friends, I see people often say things like " vulnerability is a strength " - " crying is a sign of strength " - " to be vulnerable is to be strong " and I cannot wrap my head around how they came to that conclusion.
My gut reaction was to categorize this thought process as one that'd only arise in a person who had not faced much hurdles in their life, and that they would all die for this privileged thinking if placed into the circumstances I had been born in. Bro, its like these people lived in a whole different world than me, like we weren't even on the same earth.
I understand that this clearly is arrogance, and if I am to be more socially aware, I cant think like this, so here I am lmao
Long ass post, but here we go
Vulnerability is defined as " the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally. " If you are to be in a state where something you have exposed, intentionally or not , will bring harm to your person, you are by definition in a state of weakness.
Vulnerable is defined as " susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm. " Emotional Susceptibility being, " “tendency to experience feelings of discomfort, inadequacy, and vulnerability” after the exposure to emotionally salient stimuli" . An emotionally vulnerable person then, is by definition, in a state of weakness, or is weak.
Crying itself merely being neutral, as all it is, is a method for emotional regulation. Being unable, however, to fully suppress the need when in demanding situations, or have this method of emotional regulation forced upon you ( crying unwillingly ), is an indication of weakness.
I do not understand how the quality or state itself is strength, nor do I understand why it is being framed this way? It is false, by definition. If you are encouraging someone to be vulnerable, you are encouraging them to expose a weakness, I do not understand why this sort of behavior is so highly encouraged ? If a person in where I lived before were to expose a weakness, mental or physical, he'd be used as a means to an end for some other advantage.
I am told by my friend that it is the action of defying the social norm that is the strength, not the crying/vulnerability that is the strength. If this is the case, why not just say that defying social norms require courage, and that is strength? The messaging seems incorrect, and incredibly misleading, how does this not lead to bad outcomes?
If someone in my old neighborhood were to take " vulnerability is strength " literally because of this framing, and you willingly exposed a vulnerability, you were a fool - this is regardless of whether or not you were brave in your defiance of a social norms, you'd be a brave idiot. You'd be brave in your defiance, but dumb and weak in your business, to be dumb is not a strength? What bravery, why would that matter if your bravery led to you being robbed or set up by a girl you leaked to ?
This is all to say, please offer some insight or something lol, because all I feel whenever I hear my new friends speak about this is CONTEMPT and DISDAIN lol, which I imagine isn't the greatest thing.
Thanks, this a long ass post so if no one responds I'll just crosspost it somewhere else.
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2022.01.18 16:11 BlazedJay I don’t know what to do…
Hey so for context i’m a minor (16 y/o) and i started working at Publix in June of 2021. When I got hired i was impressed by how friendly & professional everyone was. They originally put me on Front Service and i didn’t mind it. Bagging & getting carts wasn’t that bad. The pay, at the time, was $10.75 and bumped up to $11.25 about a month or two later. I was satisfied with that pay for the simple job i was doing. Then, one day they pulled me into the office and offered to put me in grocery. I’m ambitious and accepted after them explaining the job. They also didn’t touch much on the fact that i’d be “cross-training” under the Front Service title and receiving that same pay as well. (the starting pay for Grocery Clerk is $12.60.) I only got about 2 days of actual training from a coworker and have been independent since. Fast forward to today: I’m still employed under the Front Service Title and still get paid $11.25, despite the obvious difficulty difference. I haven’t worked as a bagger in months and I’ve been working grocery every shift. I brought this up to the manager and he said that i have to wait to come up on his “list” and i would probably be transferred in a week. A week later he said i didn’t come up on the list and i had to wait for next time. That day never came and no one has transferred me since. I don’t know who else to talk to and get the proper pay. Does anyone have any advice?
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2022.01.18 16:11 AdOpen5113 Manga button for anime
Hey zoro there is also manga of anime called as "The Genius Prince's Guide to Raising a Nation Out of Debt" can you add the manga button Or add manga in mangareader.
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2022.01.18 16:11 Im__Ron__Burgundy [McMurphy] Arkansas offensive coordinator Kendal Briles has been offered offensive coordinator position at Miami, sources told @ActionNetworkHQ. Briles also has been OC at Florida State, Houston, FAU & Baylor
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2022.01.18 16:11 Gibborim Foundation repair ballpark.
Hi, I am in the inspection period on a home purchase and I was hoping that someone here might have some insight into how much fixing up this level of problem might be.
Minneapolis area, the separation is on the foundation under a somewhat newer expansion of the garage slab and not adjoining any living space. First photo shows the line of separation and the second shows the very slight outward tilt of the wall from the other side of the corner.
I'm hoping that I can get a very rough ballpark figure on the level of the problem before exiting the inspection period. ($1k, $5k, $10k, $15k, $20k)
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2022.01.18 16:11 Royal_Interaction270 ‘Home Alone’ Is So Much Better if Kevin McCallister is Dead
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